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Robert S. Gordon, Ph.D., M.F.T.
While Our True Nature is Already Perfect
Your Life Can Be Better
(415) 771-7377
(415) 771-7377




I have experience in and welcome helping couples of all kinds: including cross-cultural, interracial, gay and lesbian, and transgender couples.

 At the heart of any couple is the relationship itself. Have you noticed that in addition to your own personal needs, the relationship itself is something that needs to be paid attention to and cared for?

Can you answer YES to the following questions?

Do you find it difficult to talk about important things with your partner or spouse?

Have you ever feared "rocking the boat" in your relationship?

Does either anger or moods threaten the stability of the relationship?

Have you ever thought that your partner or spouse has either a drinking problem or an addiction to a drug of any kind?

Couples therapy is, fundamentally, relationship therapy. Too often, relationships break down because conversations that are important to have - simply do not happen. When communication breaks down or is just difficult, and often when one person walks out on the other while both persons are upset, the problem remains or even increases and both people feel demoralized.

From the relationship's point of view and well-being:  

It just doesn’t work to walk out on an argument. 

Ask me how to turn an argument into a discussion from the Perspective of the Couple.

In Couples or Relationship Therapy, I provide a safe and non-judgmental atmosphere, in which people can talk and find new ways to reach each other. More than that, I also provide and teach skills with which each person can communicate in more productive and more satisfying ways than they have ever done so before.


People who come to couples therapy deserve tremendous credit for simply making the effort to show up. Over time, by "showing up" each of us can learn more about the other than we had assumed we knew and ever imagined that we had previously known. From there - a deeper understanding and more rewarding relationship begins and naturally develops.
“Showing Up” on a regular basis in Couples and Relationship Therapy, provides a sense of morale and well-being for the couple itself.  Each person experiences that they are important enough and that the relationship itself is important enough for their partner to “Show Up.”
Ask about my exercise: "The 15-Minute Conversation."